I’m a failure at life wife, and I need to rectify it ASAP. I don’t know what got into me, but over the last year… I’ve gotten kind of selfish… and lazy. lol. Night classes will do that to a person. So, here is a list of things I have been doing… poorly, and then how I want to fix things. Note that while a lot of this is inspired by my husband, not once has he criticized our judged me. He mentions things in passing, but never accuses me. I feel like he deserves better, and I need to BE better – for him, and for myself.
- Being lazy. Hahahaha. I guess this last year has been a nice break from what is usually a very stressful existence. Not that I haven’t stressful events, more that I haven’t felt the need for anti-depressents in a long time (woot!). But I have gotten in a terrible habit of sleeping in, avoiding cleaning, and cooking… and asking B-man to do things I am completely capable of. Ya know, like when he’s playing a game in the office, and I’m watching TV, I’ll ask him to get me a drink. Umm… I’m terrible. lol. The biggest “lazy” problem I have is sleeping too much.
Solution: Last night (at 4 in the morning) we decided to set a bed time. We have some friends that recently did this, but really, we did it for ourselves. It’s the first step in a long walk.We’re going to be going to bed at 11, and getting up at 7. Pretty cushy, huh?
- Not cleaning. Yeah… I tend to try and not clean… a lot. B-man does the laundry, and the dishes… and he vacuums too.
Solution: I don’t like doing laundry… because it is in the garage with all of the spiders – but I am going to help fold. Word. I hate doing the dishes, but if they’ve piled up, and B is busy – I’ll take care of it. And I guess I’ll start vacuuming. Every Sunday? Sound good? Should I make a chore list? Umm… probably. lol.
- Cooking. I used to love cooking. I don’t know what happened to me… probably school happened to me. It’s just so much easier. But that needs to stop. This ties in with the bed time. If we go to bed earlier, we can get up earlier, and B can be done with work earlier, thusly giving us plenty of time to get dinner together, instead of him finishing at 9, when we’re both famished!
Solution: I have a menu planned out for the next seven days. As soon as I’m done with this, I’m going to write it out on the fridge white board. We’re also going to try and be more consistent in having dinner at the same time every day.
- Myself. I’ve stopped taking care of myself. I’ve gained a lot of weight. B-man pointed out that I am dressing rather sloppily as of lately. I also have stopped putting make up on… even when we go out! Part of the problem is that I have gained so much weight that most of my clothes don’t fit any more. The other problem is that I just don’t like the way I look, and I don’t want to spend money on more clothes.
Solution: I am doing the food blog again, taking a picture of everything I eat – holding myself more accountable. It’s easier with my new phone. 🙂 Since we’ll be eating at home more, it should be easier to keep better tabs on what I’m eating. I’m also going to be getting up earlier, so I am planning on riding my bike a couple times a week. Tomorrow I am going to ride to the farmers market in the morning!
That’s all I can think of right now, but it’s a lot. Have you ever had a moment like this? Where you look in the mirror and go “where did this person come from!?!?!” What got you there, and what did you do to get better? Any one ever had this experience, but in a positive version?
ALSOOOOO! I bought the final pillow for my bed today, so… after I move all of the crap off of it that I took out of the bookcase I was moving out of our room… and once I’ve made the bed, I will be taking pictures and posting! I am SO excited to share it!