Being positive.

I am guilty of this. Of what? lol. Of reading something, or hearing something, and immediately taking it as a personal attack. I am kind of bummed that this is what happened to a few people, as they read my guest post for That Wife, since honestly – the story was about me, and not about any one else.

PLUS… if I wanted to insult some one, I would just do it. Don’t worry, if I don’t like you, your race, gender or religion… you will know. Oh wait… I don’t have anything against any race gender or religion. Which is why it is completely ridiculous that people seem to think it is okay to accuse me of such things.

Honestly… I’m not eloquent. I don’t think before I write, I just do. Just like when I’m talking. I think that’s why my blog sounds…well… like me! So, next time you read something, written by me, or any one else, read it with a smile. That way your first instinct isn’t to assume the person is being mean. Because my guess is, they don’t even realize what they said is so controversial.

It has been a long, hard day.

I think B-man and I had our first real fight.

It was awful.

My feelings are hurt from our fighting, and honestly the anonymous comments are just the icing on top.

I got four hours of sleep last night, and desperately need to get more than that tonight. Wish me luck.

Should I start including a disclaimer?

Disclaimer: If anything you read here offends you, read it again. Unless it specifically has the word “hate” and what ever you are taking personally, you’ve misread what I intended to say, and you should read it again. Unless it has your name and something negative. Then it probably is about you.

Continue the fun!

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9 Comments

  1. I'm the ultimate lurker but you seem to be having such a bad day I though I would post, I know you love comments. I'm all the way in Australia and I check your blog every day. I like your writing style, it has a truth to it. If you had to think about every word you wrote in a post you would never write anything, some people are always loooking for offence, though of course we should be aware of the impact of our words but not to the point that it drives us batty thinking about it. And don't stress about your fight with B man, fighting inspires passion, just wait till he gets home!

  2. First of all, I'm sorry you and B had a fight! Even after so many years with my husband, I HATE when we get into an argument. It can totally ruin my day. But I also think fighting is a healthy part of a relationship. It's a way to learn something new about your partner and a chance to grow. Hang in there.

    Secondly, I was very surprised to read some of the comments on your guest post. While the phrasing of the Wicca comment you made tripped me up a little, I thought you explained it well in your response to the person who commented on it. As for the other mean spirited complaint that you were picking on other religions, I think that was a huge stretch. Religion can be a polarizing subject and I think some of Jenna's readers must be ready to pounce on any little thing they can.

    Try not to let them get you down! You wrote a lovely post full of enthusiasm and joy. Some people just can't be pleased.

    Hope today goes better for you!

  3. I've never recieved negative comments on my blog (I will now because I just cursed myself) but I read what you posted on ThatWife and didn't find it offensive at all. Some people are just looking to pick at things, I know because I've been known to do it. I liked reading your story and find it amazing that you were called to a religion at 10 years old.

  4. My husband and I fight a ton…we're both so stubborn. They are always "nothing" fights too…so lame! 🙂 Luckily we can laugh at ourselves too. We've been married less than 2 years, and the fights are decreasing. His school schedule (being away 3 days a week) seems to exacerbate the fights. Neither of us hold grudges, so it "works" for us to get out our feelings and then get over it. I hope you two resolve things soon and then have fabulous make-up sex! 😉

    Hope that comment isn't to scandalous for ya! 🙂

    I love Jenna, but her blog is a MAGNET for haters. Most of her readers are normal, but they don't comment. She has quite a few crazies who search for anything to argue about or get offended about, and they ALWAYS comment. Hopefully you can just let it go and realize they're bonkers. I loved your post. I seriously started bawling – it was a combination of the music I had playing, your poignant story, and the fact that I'm hormonal. 🙂 Just take comfort in the fact that your story will touch many, even though you won't know about it.

    1. Nope, not too scandalous. 😉

      I guess it's just annoying for people to twist your words, on top of having a really lame day. My husband is out of town, and that is usually what makes us fight. Thanks for the comment though, it is nice to know not every one thinks I'm a hater!

  5. The internet is full of people who would never have the guts to say stuff to your face, so the do it on the anonymous internetz.

    Fights suck. I'm still getting over the one I had with hubs in late march/early april, Haha it's been so long I don't even remember when it started!

  6. Sorry about the argument with B-man…it happens, but it does suck.

    As far as your guest post goes, I didn't pick up that you were attacking anyone or anything. In fact, I thought it was a very tasteful and personal post!

    When a commenter is combative, which I felt happened, it is usually because they are 'looking' for an argument.

    Keep up what you're doing, and don't let anyone make you feel you need to apologize for what you're writing/saying. 🙂

  7. My hubs and I used to fight a lot, but after two years we've finally learned "how to" fight and we're not fighting nearly as much. Those first big fights are killer tho…and the hurt feelings never completely go away once you realize they are capable of hurting your feelings. But honestly? The one thing that always makes me feel better and makes it easier to make up? Going to bed mad at him. Seriously. Haha

    And as far as the anonymous comments? They suck, and they are just mean little people who are bored and miserable in their own lives. If you can remember how awesome you are it will drive them nuts. But I'm sorry, I know they suck.

    Hope your day goes much better!!

    Stopping in from SITS!

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