New School

All ready for her first day of school!

Getting the exchange student accepted to the local high school was a pain. Finally I had settled in to the idea of driving her 30 minutes each way to and from school every day. Thankfully my neighbor saw the lunacy in that concept and quickly called in a few favors. It was a mess, lots of phone calls, I may have cried once or twice, and then some more e-mails and phone calls and on the third school day of the year she was finally able to hop on the bus at the corner near our house and head off to school!

Also at the beginning of the year Ginny and I have joined a local pre-school co-op. It was a group of moms who all had young children but did not want to go the traditional pre-school route. I thought we were a good fit, unfortunately time would not agree.

Ginny all ready for her first day of preschool co-op.

I only knew one other mom in the group, she’d invited me to join. Unfortunately at the end of October, having only hosted twice, I got a phone call that they had decided to kick me out of the co-op.

And Ginny.

Of course they said something like “It’s not Ginny, we love her and she’s great, but we really don’t think you’re a good fit.” They said I didn’t choose healthy foods (my broccoli and pasta were not organic), I wasn’t involved enough with the children (because three year olds should be told to stop playing and sit down to do guided activities), and that I’m combative and too aggressive. There was no second chance, and no warning.

Ginny still asks about her preschool friends, four months later.

It’s weird, how these women I barely knew held such power over me – but I was sincerely crushed. I don’t think I’ve felt that kind of rejection and so much pain since elementary school.

Thankfully my sweet girl is resilient, and her life is still full of nature and play and people who love her and interesting experiences.

Her mother on the other hand is fragile. This experience spiraled me into panic attacks and added to my already mounting pre-scan anxiety that comes every six months.

This experience was also a big factor in the decision to send Ginny to public school next year when she starts Kindergarten. She’s going to love it, and I know she will do well. Crazy how fast time flies though! Only six months and I’ll be Mama to a kindergartner!

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5 Comments

  1. I'm sorry those other mothers treated you so poorly. That is awful. Please know that most homeschool groups are more not like that. Ginny is an amazing girl and will do great in any school setting.

    1. I know that not all people are like that, and I know there are lots of nice homeschoolers out there – I was homeschooled as a kid and my Mama never participated in petty drama like that. I had been on the fence about public/homeschool before and this helped me realize that I could give public a shot. We're still flexible, but knowing how much she enjoyed the co-op made it easier for me to accept that she'll probably really enjoy the classroom setting. We'll see!

  2. I'm glad to see you blogging again. You have a great talent for writing, and no matter what you're saying, I always enjoy reading it. I'm sorry about the co-op thing – that really sucks. 🙁

  3. I love reading your blog. You inspire me. Those other moms don't know what an amazing relationship they lost out on (not just with Ginny, but with YOU too).

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