the goal of my blog

My friend Meg suggested I try and figure out the goals of my blog, which could aid in the cohesiveness of my writing. Great point. Meg recently revamped her blog, changing the look, and even the style a little bit. And honestly – her process made me realize I had been doing it wrong.

I’ve been blogging for a very long time. Over ten years. I am a writer at heart. I often have a hard time communicating in person. I care too much about how other people feel, and how they will respond to my words, so I typically keep things to myself. I can definitely be vocal, and by no means am I a quiet person. Just thoughtful. But I started blogging because it was what my friends did. Xanga was the big thing then, but I got a LiveJournal because I liked that better. And I blogged for my friends. I wrote things down that were bothering, and we would all discuss things on each other’s blogs (in the comments). It became very theraputic.

Then I got a stalker and had to close that blog and start a new one. Long story. Not important.

I became more serious about my blogging (Less Meme’s, more personal writing), at the beginning of college. In fact, that is when I picked up my handle One Shiny Star. Going to a big college had made me feel like a number. So I decided to write. I wrote about my old boyfriend, the heart break, my classes, the stupid people I saw all over campus. I wrote sad poems about love lost, and cryptic posts that even I don’t understand now. I was getting depressed, and my blog became my go-to confession place.

But things are different now. I’m not depressed, I’m not lonely, and to be honest… I rarely have a good reason to be sad/mad/upset. I feel incredibly blessed in my life right now, and I think I am struggling to make that transition from “wo is me” to something more productive.

So my blog needs new parameters. Mostly for my sake. I want to write about raising my daughter. Be it parenting decisions we have made, activities that we do together, or more practical things like baby items we love, and how we deal with problem situations that arise. Some of these will be random (as in, something happened and here’s my response), but the rest will be organized into these catagories:

Toddler Activities – as you saw yesterday.
Items We Love – which will be reviews of items I already own or have recently purchased. I will not be doing reviews of items I have been given and asked to review (at this time any way).
Parenting – I want to touch on our family values, and what they mean to us. This will probably be the most controversial thing I write about.

I also used to blog about food a lot. Having a baby did something to me. Some people may call it “lazy” – but I call it helpless. I felt helpless for so long that getting back into the groove of managing our household has… well… it’s taking me a long time. So… food is probably not going to happen very often. But that’s okay.

Family Trips. We love going places and seeing things.  As fall comes around and we are actually able to get out and enjoy the cooling weather I plan to blog about the types of things we go see. I have a hard time finding recommendations of things to do in my area, so I intend on including things like parking/price/stroller accessibility and child entertainment value. Maybe it will help other people who feel a little bit lost in this giant chunk of Northern Virginia.

I still want to blog about my wedding. I realize it was 3 years ago (as of August 15th, I can’t believe it’s been so long!), but I have a list of things I wanted to write about, and I’m hoping to continue on that list. I have kind of given up hope when it comes to including pictures (for now). That was what was holding me back. I tried getting the pictures a while back and things just got held up and due to recent events I doubt I will see them any time soon. So while it may seem random – this is important to me, and something I will be trying to do.

The over arching goal of this blog is to chronical my life. Per the blog’s name – I want to write about what makes me unique.

But, at the same time, I love the community I have come to be friends with through blogging, so I hope to maintain those relationships, because  truly do value every comment and piece of advice that I get. But I hope as my writing becomes more focused and useful that I will be able to help other people as well. That’s what really makes me happy is knowing that perhaps my sporadic writings have inspired or helped some one else. 🙂


ETA: I will also be blogging about crafts and and the joys of owning a home… but that seemed kind of… obvious… I guess. lol.


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  1. I think with this new focus you'll be happier with your blog.

    I'm just now starting to figure out what I want my blog to look like and common posting themes (like my 'Right Now' Friday posts and my weekly 'Scenes from our home" posts). Soon I want to write about how I'm taking my blog to the next level in terms of my own committment but I'm still mulling through those thoughts.

    How many times a week will you post?

    1. My whole life focus has changed since having Ginny. I used to shoot for 4+ times a week, but now I blog in spurts, sometimes it takes me several days to finish writing one post because I don't get that much time on my own. It does drive me crazy, but at the same time I am thankful to get to spend so much time with Ginny and my hubs.

      We recently got Ginny sleeping in her own bed at night, so we put her to bed and get some time to ourselves. B-man and I usually spend this time tidying the house and watching some of our favorite shows (from the dvr) together. I think maybe I need to set aside certain days to be "blog writing" days, that way I will be able to write more consistently – but for the time being I don't really have a goal, albeit to write as often as possible… which could be once a week, or it could be several times.

  2. Looking forward to your new focus! I loved the description of your bean activity. I am not at all creative when it comes to simple games like that, and usually find it very dull to play with R for any length of time. It's nice to get some suggestions and I'm looking forward to more!

    1. I try to remind myself that if I spend 15 minutes doing what she wants to do… she gets bored of me! Then I'm free to do what I want while she goes on about her own thing. Ginny especially likes it when I'll read her a book (some times once or twice), then she wants to sit and turn the pages by herself.

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