bringing home ginny: plans

My birth experience was nothing like what I expected, but it was what needed to happen.

I had several hopes when it came to giving birth. I say hopes because I knew from the beginning that making plans was setting myself up for disappointment. My hopes included:

  1. Starting labor on my own. I did not want to be induced. I wanted to avoid things that would lead to needing more interventions. In the hope of avoiding being put on pitocin before my body was ready, I did agree to a membrane sweep at 39 weeks.
  2. I wanted to labor at home. I knew that once my water broke that I would need to go to the hospital, but I hoped that I would be able to labor in the comfort of my own home. Despite being told to go to the hospital when contractions were 5 minutes apart, I intended to stay at home as long as possible. Especially considering the hospital is less than 5 minutes away.
  3. Trying for a natural birth. Every one has their own ideals when it comes to pain medication during labor. My goal was to labor naturally, and to deal with the pain by moving, using heat (showers/heating pads) and breathing.
  4. Go with the flow. All of the above goals were based on my need to control things. Birth is stressful enough, so I wanted to try and cut out any additional stressors. I wanted to avoid the hospital for as long as possible, and to feel like I was in control of things. Unfortunately – Ginny had other plans. Being able to pause and remember that every one in that hospital room had the same goal made it easier for me to let go of my own fears, and accept changes as they came made it easier to relax.
I did not write out a birthplan. I wrote one for the class we took, but it was never my intention to hand the piece of paper to my nurses. I made it clear when I was admitted that my goal was to labor naturally, for as long as I could. I trusted my body, and new that things would happen the way they needed to.
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  1. My birth experience was nothing like what I had hoped for either. I wanted to go into labor on my own, but my baby was a week overdue and my doctor strongly discouraged me from going any later, so I had to be induced. The doctor had to break my water. I wanted to be able to labor without an epidural, but the pitocin made the contractions so painful that I had to get the epi. I don't know if it's an anesthesiologist thing or what, but mine was kind of rude too. My epidural only worked on my right side, so I could still feel all of the pain on the left. After about 10 hours of labor, I told my husband that I couldn't do it anymore, but he kept encouraging me. Then, after 13 hours of labor, they told me that my best option would be a c-section because it took me 3 hours to go from an 8 to a 9. I was willing to do anything at that point so that it would be over. Once they did the c-section, they found that the cord was wrapped around my baby's shoulder and was preventing him from dropping down into the birth canal. So the c-section was necessary. Since my epi hadn't worked right, they had to put me under for the c-section, so I didn't even get to see my son for awhile after he was born. Like you said though, it was all necessary to get him here. My husband had given me priesthood blessings throughout my pregnancy and before the delivery, so I knew that it would work out how it was supposed and that everything that happened was necessary, but it still was slightly disappointing.

    1. wow! Do you have a blog, or have you written more about your experience? Thanks for sharing it though – I can't imagine what that must have felt like.

      At one point when I started crying that I wanted to give up and make everything stop my Mom told me to stop because she thought the nurses would think I just wanted a c-section. It was the one time I told my Mom to shut up, because I really just needed to be able to complain, and I don't think they routinely offer c-sections just for the heck of it. lol.

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