I have a problem. For the longest time I thought that this wasn’t actually my problem, but that it was other peoples’ fault. Go figure. The problem is that I have expectations, and when things don’t happen the way I think they should – I am not a happy camper. I would never describe myself as easy going. My husband, the sweet man I married, is a very easy going kind of guy. Actually… since he spends so much time with me he does occasionally get his panties in a twist – but generally he is laid back. Another way I would never describe myself as.
But I have another problem – and it’s kind of specific, so making this general is difficult. Okay, assume that I am trying my best to easy going. I am thinking very carefully about everything I say, and I am doing my best to not take offense to another person’s responses or tones. But every time I exchange any kind of words with this person I get a tongue lashing. Any time I talk to any one in the same room as this person I get corrected. The one time I tried to talk to this person directly I spent a good 10 minutes formulating exactly how to say the words and focused on my tone as to come across easy going and laid back. And I still made them mad.
I know. Too general. I’m sorry. But my question is this:
How do you deal with the difficult people in your life. This person is very important to me – I love them very much. But despite my best efforts they take everything I say the wrong way. I’m at the point where I feel like the events would go better if I just didn’t show up. I’m going crazy and I always end up leaving feeling like I would be better off not talking to any one. So what do you say to some one who takes everything personally?