I’m not sure what percentage of my readers are LDS, and though I don’t typically write about religion, it has definitely been at the fore front of my mind. All over facebook I have seen people commenting, arguing, and bashing over a recent talk given at the church’s semi-annual General Conference. The one by Boyd K. Packer. Where he repeats the same things the church has been saying for many many years. He address, with out specification, gay marriage. I know this is a touchy subject for some people, but no that there is no malice in my voice as I write this.
I’ll be honest – I was left with a bad taste in my mouth.
I know the church believes these things, but I also know that it was perceived as very discriminatory, and in bad taste what with the recent suicides. Elder Packer compares voting for gay marriage, to voting against the law of gravity.
And here is where I stand:
I don’t care, but I don’t discriminate. Just because person A makes promises to person B does not mean that the promises I made at my wedding are any less valuable or important. The LDS church also believes that it is the only true church, but I don’t see them going around saying other people can’t call their worship center a church. To me, it is semantics. If homosexual people want to get “married” then why can’t they? We talk about temple marriage as a covenant – because THAT is what it is about. It is not about the legal papers, or these earthly words that people spew out. It’s not about the “I promise to love you through sickness and health” either. MY marriage is about my covenants, and my neighbor’s marriage was about getting legally hitched before their baby was born. Lol, to be honest that seems a little more degrading to the ideals of marriage, than two people who really love and care about each other making a commitment to honor respect and support each other for the rest of their lives.
I know – this is really deep stuff, but it has been on my mind a lot. There are deeper issues to this situation, the whole nature vs. nurture thing, and a bucket of other issues. I’m not going to go there.
The church PR team released a statement in response to the Human Rights Commission. And in it, they say what I said to begin with. This is not new information. It is an untimely presentation, but nothing new. This is a church about love – God’s love. Something that is so often spoken about, but not acted upon nearly enough. It’s kind of like a piece of gum. It has helped remove the bad taste in my mouth, but I am still thinking about it. I am still bothered, still perturbed, but what all of this shows is that we are a church of human beings. People who over look things, who don’t consider hard enough, or long enough. People who coincidently hurt other peoples’ feelings. And it just shows that every one, even the upper leaders of this church, have things they can improve upon.
I don’t know that I would ever sport a bumper sticker shouting “I SUPPORT GAY MARRIAGE” – but mostly because I don’t believe in putting stickers on cars, it’s bad for the paint. Among my family and friends I think I am in the minority on this position, but I hope that people take time to consider WHY they feel the way they do about these issues. And if the reason is “because XYZ says so” (that could be the bible, God, church, your Mom, a teacher), then look a little deeper inside. Just like some one attending a different “church” does not invalidate or demean my understanding of church, some one else getting married does not invalidate, nor demean my marriage.